Lately I have been thinking, mostly at 1am when I should be sleeping, which can be dangerous I know. There are many questions and thoughts going around my head but the main one is
Am I happy with my blog?
If I am completely honest – no I am not. I may use the hashtags mummy blogger or parent blogger but I don’t feel like one. Yes I am a mum, and I blog about my child, so I guess technically that does make me a mummy blogger. I love sharing posts and pictures of what we have been up to. This blog is even named after my daughter! But then there is the other part of my blog name – rocks, and I don’t mean geological ones!
Please don’t take this the wrong way fellow mummy/parent bloggers, but it’s not you its me. I know we all heard that in another way more controversial post than this will ever be! Don’t worry I’m not about to go on a rant about how mummy bloggers suck, quite the opposite I think you all rock! I just think I suck at being a mummy blogger!
Whilst I like sharing the things we have done I’m not one for writing the typical parenting posts. I spend ages thinking of ways to jazz up my life and make it sound interesting. But I shouldn’t be doing that. I want to be honest and not sugar coat life. Some days are great and some days are hard, really bloody hard! We all have those days, the ones where you have a billion and one things to do, a screaming toddler and you can’t even get out of your pjs until lunchtime! At least I hope that’s not just me!
I am a stay at home mum, I look after Clem, I clean, I cook. In fact I love to cook, I don’t blog enough about my love of cooking. I also love music, watching tv and Netflix, doing crafts and stationery. I used to be obsessed with film cameras, I own several and I would love to blog about all those things. However I feel like I’ve stuck myself in the category of ‘parent blogger’ and I can’t. Which is silly, I know. It’s my blog so I can blog about whatever I want. So that’s what I’m going to do.
I’m going to blog more for myself. When I first started this blog up as a way of keeping my brain going whilst being a stay at home mum. I didn’t think about readers or PR or doing reviews when I started. Google analytics is a whole new world to me, I still don’t really know what I’m doing! I like blogging, I really do. But I feel like the time has come to step back from the parenting side of the blog. I’ll still be talking about Clem and being a parent but it’s not going to be the only thing. I was thinking of changing the name, but I can’t. Clem definitely rocks, and that won’t stop. In fact I’m sure she’s only going to get better.
I want to write more for me, what I’m about. I’m more than just a mum and I need to start believing that! I want to get back into crafts, learn more about photography and enjoy it! I want to share adventures in the kitchen. Both good and bad.
There are also some big life changes going on at the moment as well. These are another reason why I’ve been rather quiet on the old Twitter/Insta/Facebook and blog lately. We have decided to move, well I guess relocate. We currently live in commuters-ville. Don’t get me wrong we have a great park and there are some wonderful places around us but Jesse now has a job which means he can work from home. However we have a two bedroom flat which has been taken over by a toddler. The main office for his job is in Lewes, near Brighton. He does need to travel down there once a week, so we are going to be looking at Brighton, Hove and the surrounding areas.
A lot of our time is going to be taken up with that soon. We have already started to look for property down there and we have literally just last week put our flat on the market!
Now we aren’t sure if this is a good time to be doing this what with all the brexit and stuff. However having spoken to the bank about mortgages we have a decision in principle and our estate agent has 5/6 clients who they think would be interested in our flat straight away. So *fingers crossed* it all goes ok. It sounds really silly to say this given that we already own our flat but I’m terrified! It feels incredibly grown up to buy a property, and sell one!! I have no idea of what we should be doing. Don’t get me wrong we know what we want from a property. I’ve watched enough of Kirsty and Phil to know that! It’s all the legal/paperwork side of things that are going to be complicated. Buying a house seemed ok compared to selling one and then buying another one!
Do any of you live in Brighton (or near by) and can recommend areas to look at that are good for families, or even better – the areas to avoid! We do have family down there so this isn’t some crazy idea that we have suddenly come up. We go there quite a lot, and have always enjoyed it. In fact we have several photos on our wall that we have taken in Brighton so they’ve always been a bit of a reminder of there. It also seems like a great place to bring up Clem.
I’ve been feeling much the same about “parent blogging” recently (not sure if you saw my post about blogging for fun?); I definitely think it’s time to tone down the parenting and start writing more about me.
Best of luck with the move! How exciting! I hope you find a new home you love.
I hadn’t seen your post until I read your comment, I’ve been a bit rubbish at reading blogs lately. However having now read it I completely agree! Blogging should be fun. x
When I serrated my blog in November 2014 I vowed right from Day 1 to not lock myself into a category. I had never actually read anyone else blog before I started I knew nothing about blogging, I just knew I wanted to write, or more so I needed to as it is my passion and I had neglected my passions for way too long. After blogging for awhile I noticed that people were recommending that as bloggers would should more or less stick with a niche. I started to worry. But then I thought, no this blog is about me, I even call it Reflections From Me so I am so many things, a mum, wife, writer, friend, shopper, fun loving, explorer, who has passion for photography and interior design and books, any way you know what I mean. I am me and my blog is about my life so I blog about whatever I feel like on any given day. I don’t schedule posts or tweets, I just share when I want and it makes me love my blog and my life so much more. My stats are awesome so something is working. Good luck and I say enjoy the freedom of being you! Good Luck with the move too!! Linked after you with #dreamteam xx
started my blog! Not serrated lol xx
Aww thank you for your comment. This is so good to hear. Whilst I don’t have many readers I was worried about losing the few I do get if I changed what I focus on. I realise that’s silly as I might also gain new ones from it.x
I completely know what you mean about being a mummy blogger…I love blogging about everything too and actually have plans to blog about the other passions in my life…just as you say, we’re not just mums! And we were who we are before we had our lovely kiddies. I love you blog, I think you write honestly and are always very open in your writing. I’m so excited you are coming to Brighton! We live by Fiveways and this is a great area for schools, lots of parks nearby and easy to get into town by walking (half an hour) or by bus too. Other areas I’d recommend are by Preston Park, Patcham and Hollingbury…I’d stay clear of the Elm Grove/Lewes Road area if you can. If you’re heading for Hove, I really like Poet’s Corner. Give me a shout if you’d like any advice, more than happy to help. Thanks for linking up to the #dreamteam xx
Oh my gosh thank you so much for this. I was going to send you a message about any areas we should avoid/look at. We did find a house in Poets Corner we really liked but someone put an offer on it before we could and they are in a much better position than us. We are down on Saturday looking at 6!! places all over Hove and Brighton so we should get a good idea of areas from that. x
First off, I completely agree with you from the get go about over thinking at 1am. It seems to be my life a lot these days. But as a stay at home mum myself, who is also a mummy blogger, I completely get where you are coming from. Although being a mother is the most amazing the in your life hands down (probably), it doesn’t have to define you and be all you are. Blog for you and what you want to say. I’m still new and learning definitely something I struggle with too. It’s a start addressing the problem you have and now you can focus on overcoming it and getting your juices flowing all things un-mummy related #marvmondays
All the best with the move, I’ve only been to Brighton once but absolutely loved it! Totally agree that blogging should be first and foremost fun and for yourself. Xx #MarvMondays
Follow your dreams-love life and enjoy. Good Luck #MarvMondays
I’d absolutely love to visit Brighton, it looks incredible and so fab for creatives. I’m looking forward to seeing how your blog evolves, lovely and I’ll always be a reader. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Kaye xo
I stand up alot for parenting bloggers but I totally understand what you mean. At the start my blog was 100% parenting but now 3 years on – I have alot about myself on the blog aswell as parenting too!