I’ve been feeling quite down lately, both about myself and blogging. I spend an awful lot of time comparing myself to others. I know I shouldn’t do it but it’s so hard not to. I’ve been finding it hard to get motivated to write, which is weird as I have a billion things I want to write about. I just cannot find the words. I’ve even lost interest in reading other blogs which is something I used to love doing. Before starting my own blog I used to read mainly fashion, beauty and lifestyle blogs. Until I became pregnant and then I ventured into the world of parenting blogs. However, the other day as I was endlessly scrolling through twitter I saw two posts by two bloggers who I really like.
Both Callie and Zoe’s tweets immediately jumped out at me. I instantly clicked on both of these posts and they were ones I really needed to read. It’s refreshing to see, what I consider big bloggers, feeling a similar way to me. One of the reasons I started blogging in the first place was to stop loneliness. As a first-time mum I was (and still am) incredibly lonely. I suffer from low self-esteem/social anxiety. Having both of those makes it incredibly hard for me to make friends. I tend to avoid most social situations. Which is why going to this was such a big deal for me. I think I did pretty good at hiding the sheer terror I was feeling inside.
After reading her post it was interesting to see that Callie doesn’t think of herself as a girl boss because I would totally think she is. She was featured in a Vogue article recently along with Kendall Jenner, Selena Gomez and a whole host of others. Personally, she is leading the way in plus size fashion. I haven’t spoken about this but I have put on a lot of weight since I stopped breastfeeding.
Who can say no to cake?
Not me, so I’ve really been struggling with clothes. It’s nice to see that larger ladies can look good in clothes. Through Callie I have found a whole heap of awesome plus sized bloggers/Instagrammers to follow. Also a huge high-five to her for keeping those plants alive. I usually kill plants straight away so I know how tough that is!
I also love how inspiring Zoe is. If you haven’t read her blog before you should. The photography and vlogs she produces are amazing, like seriously check them out. They make me want to travel, see the world and own a drone. Her hair is also goals. We shouldn’t look at other bloggers as competition. If someone gets an awesome opportunity but you don’t, don’t be mean about them. Support them, give them a high five and say woo. Your time will probably come. So her point about having a girl gang to be inspired by and support is so true. I’m not sure I’ve found mine yet but I hope I will soon.
Make or break time.
This week is Clems last one at pre-school before the summer holidays. From September she will be going for longer hours and more days. This means I will have more time. So do I actually try to make it as a blogger, or do I get a job and stick to blogging here and there.
What does making it as a blogger mean? I’ve had a few paid opportunities, does that mean I’ve already made it? Or is it when you have the big numbers on social media and get invited to x amount of events/trips? People can easily boost numbers now, you can buy followers on Instagram, twitter and facebook. Everyone has a different view on this. I guess just writing a blog means that you are technically a blogger, and if you make money from it then it’s just a bonus.
If I have more time I could be more organised with my blogging. I could actually work on promoting my posts, or even just writing my posts! But then it all comes back to that word at the beginning. Motivation. Having more time doesn’t mean I will be more motivated. But I’m certainly going to try. Like Zoe says I’m going to spend less time comparing myself to others. I’m just going to stick to doing my own thing. If anyone wants to join me then please do.
I love both Callie and Zoe – brilliant bloggers! I’m so sorry you have been feeling this way but sympathise 100%. It’s so hard not to compare ourselves to others when we are putting ourselves out there. Much love to you and thank you for linking up to #dreamteam x
I think we all feel this way sometimes, especially as there seem to be less and less comments so less and less feeling of connection/recognition/validation/whatever. I find it depressing posting something which matters to me and not getting a comment for a few days, but I also don’t often do linkies or Twitter chats or any of the promo I “should” be doing if I want new readers to come and find me; a large chunk of me doesn’t want my blog to become too big and glossy and time-consuming and stress-inducing but another part of me wants to feel part of something bigger than my own words on a screen, if that makes sense?
You have literally just described exactly how I feel. I know I won’t get comments and views on my posts if I don’t do the same to others. I can’t expect people to just stumble across my blog. I guess I just need to find that balance.
I think it can be tough going cause you have to constantly be on the ball, sometimes having a schedule or break can help. I hope your mood shifts and you enjoy blogging – just remember why you did it in the first place X #dreamteam
Thank you. I’m hoping that by writing this it will give me the boost I need. x
Blogging is not what it used to be back in the day – it used to be so much about camaraderie and being in it together and now there is so much competition. It is good to step back and reflect what you want from it. You will never be the top blogger or the bottom blogger, you will be somewhere in between as most of us are. Have you seen the courses run by YouBabyMeMummy?
I’ve been in and out of the blogging world for many years now and have definitely seen the changes. I have seen the courses by Aby and I’ve actually signed up to do the free ones. I, rather hilariously, just need to find the time to do them. They do look really good and helpful. Aby definitely knows her stuff.
I love that you are sticking to doing your own thing Ky. It’s the best way to go. Being you and doing things your way will end up being your biggest strength, just wait and see. I completely relate to this and often have my own hiccups around blogging and particular posts I have written. The #DreamTeam is here for you 🙂 xx
I think I read the same post from Zoe, other bloggers really aren’t our competition and I constantly have to remind myself not to compare x
I’ve been feeling the same lately, I think it’s due to the sheer amount of work I have on -blogging, vlogging, social media oh and two little ones!! I hope you find your motivation as it really is a lovely thing to do
Ahh I’m sorry you were feeling crap, I think when you blog though it makes it worse when comparing ourselves to others, I do it too. As for cake… story or my life! Baking professionally means I’m now two stone heavier than before I started! Boooo